A Woman is More Valuable

I overheard someone relating his infidelity and his subsequent worry (afterthought) that he might have contracted an infection. His words spoke volumes about his opinion of his extramarital female consort. He said, "I get some skin outside." Even if he were referring to a commercial sex worker (and he was not), the term 'skin' sounded so impersonal that it seemed as if he had coitus with an inanimate object.
Many men do not believe that women are of equal standing. I am, therefore, always amazed that many women are either easily beguiled, or allow themselves to be beguiled, or go into denial when they are being beguiled, into believing that they are loved when their disingenuous spouse perceives them as nothing more than a sexual convenience.
Women who are unwilling participants. but who are pressured for sex anyway, should object, or they will only end up being the object of someone's base urges. Perhaps it's a throwback to some primitive drive to satisfy natural stirrings; or, it could be a subconscious need to disperse genetic material. Whatever the reason, a large percentage of men view women as vaginas attached to bodies.
When some men see women, the very first thing they imagine is acquiring/owning their vaginas. They consider the rest of a woman as nature's device for packaging and transporting the vagina. To some men, a woman's intellect, mind and emotions are inconveniences (obstacles) that get in the way of the acquisition of the vagina. Some 'packages' are very attractive, and men tend to assume that it is representative of the vagina's attributes. This, by the way, is often an erroneous conclusion, as the face and body do not necessarily bear any association with the vagina.
By all means
Generally, men will do almost anything to acquire/own/conquer a vagina, even if it's only for a single encounter. Men will offer kind compliments or befriend those near and dear to the target of their coital predation. Some will embark on long and circuitous routes to distract women from their ultimate goal. They may even feign disinterest in any amorous relationship. They may pretend to be concerned and caring, all the while considering their time, effort, gifts and money as investments that will one day pay huge dividends.
Some men think that a woman's make-up, manicure, pedicure and coif are like bright billboard lights advertising the availability of her vagina. They find it difficult to believe that women often embark on physical aestheticism just to feel good about themselves. Many men consider courtship as a cat(pardon the pun)-and-mouse (some will say 'rat') game that women play using their vaginas as bait.
Paradoxically, with each conquest, many males seem to need more and more women in a vain attempt at achieving the genuinely ecstatic thrill that only a relationship that transcends sexual intercourse can bring. Women become objects of lustful desire, and any admiration men once had for them fades into an obscure hodgepodge of confused emotions, blunted pleasures and an inability to sustain a stable, well-rounded, satisfying and healthy relationship. A woman's vagina can become the focus of salacious desire, and insanely jealous men sometimes kill because of it.
This warped perception of women directly impacts the moral fibre of our society because it obliterates the family nucleus and makes real fatherhood a rarity. The negative ramifications of widespread and irresponsible 'donation of genetic material' are blatantly evident in our high crime rate. For the sake of the family unit and, therefore, society, women must equip themselves for independence, respect themselves and demand respect from all men, make it known that they are equal partners in society, have emotional and spiritual needs, and insist they are much more than just vaginas.
Garth A. Rattray is a physician with a family practice. Email feedback to columns@gleanerjm.com and garthrattray@gmail.com.